Everyone says that infertility is a roller coaster. In fact, I specifically referenced IVF as a “crazy roller coaster ride” when I pitched Ordinary Miracles, my new memoir, to Hollywood executives. Well, here is my analogy (written for The Analogy Project).
Ever stand on line to get on a roller coaster? A ride that looks really fun, one everyone has been talking about? And then, as you trudge through the metal aisles and the line bends inside a tall structure, you realize the wait is a lot longer than you thought it would be. Your palms get sweaty, you get a little shaky, and the anxiety builds. You can’t see the ride or where it takes you but you can hear the screams through the walls. It terrifies you but still, you wait. You know it will be worth it in the end. When you finally get up to the front of the line, you are exhausted, mentally and physically. Now as you climb in, you put on your seat belt and wait some more. The car begins to take you into an intense labyrinth. You’re thrown from left to right, around this turn and that one. Suddenly, you’re thrust upside down and you feel like you’re going to vomit. Sometimes, you feel like your floating. You feel giddy inside, not only by how much fun the ride is, but how fun life can be. Then, with a few more twists and turns that aren’t what you expected, you come to the end of the ride with satisfaction that you made it through. It was scary, thrilling, and exhilarating all at the same time. But, was it worth it?
Well, when you’re riding the TTC roller coaster, it can be just as thrilling. But for some of us, the line to get on the ride is a lot longer than it is for others. You could also have several bumps that can take you off the line like not having enough money to ride. And, then the ride itself can be quite a story….
Here is a roller coaster to match each stage of IVF:
Getting a positive pregnancy test (the finale): Nitro @ Six Flags in NJ ~ This ride has pretty steep cliffs (reaching 230 feet in the air). At the top, you actually feel weightless for a moment and it is an incredible feeling! This is exactly what it feels like to finally be pregnant after all the stress of an IVF cycle.
*Sadly, if you get different results, (and that has happened to me four times), you have to head back on that very long line and start all over again….
My best advice: Have a roller coaster buddy to share the experience with if you can (even if it’s a virtual friend!)